More on life lessons from each season thus far:

I still like this idea of thinking about what you learned from each season of life—marriage has taught me humility, that there was so much i had no idea about, that we can get to know someone deeply through many seasons of life is such a gift; and that I’ve gotten to know parts of God I never would have otherwise.

In a funny way, marriage seems to teach us to fellowship with His Sufferings for one another! Though they may not sound like a fun reason to be attracted to marriage! Suffering with and for brings deeper transformation in us.

If spiritual growth is your core motivation, as it is one of mine, marriage is a great method! Not the only, but a effective one, if you keep diving into Love, and His Perspective of the other person He is sharing with you!

But, also it’s almost like you have access to that other person’s part of heaven or parts of God, and that’s astounding in my case. Of course, we have sort of a mystical marriage, but I’ve gotten to travel into so many more parts of heaven-specifically into The Father’s Heart and realms, and practical formation down here, by being married.

And just simply gotten less selfish—marriage forces that, if you stay with it. There’s much more I’ve learned from being married, but at least that much. Enjoying thinking about what I’ve learned from each season of life thus far! Good practice to recount it, i think! Ok, more on what I’ve learned in marriage later, but just getting some rough sketches of all it can form in us down here!

I know lots of people are anti-marriage in my generation, but I see it as one of the most subversive alternative punk options for spiritual formation on earth! It’s the hardest, so must be one of the best ways! It’s like sharpening knives underwater, or many other images. Marriage is still one of the best containers for becoming who we really are on earth! It requires the most “death to self daily”—that alone would make it a noble pursuit!